How to Handle False Accusations
(Chapter 28 of "BITTERNESS")
Psalm 35:1, “Plead my cause, O Lord, with them that strive with me: fight against them that fight against me.”
A woman once went to D.L. Moody and said, “Mr. Moody, I owe you an apology. I have gossiped about you. I have lied about you. I want you to forgive me.”
In reply, Mr. Moody said, “Follow me.” He took her up to the roof with him. He had his secretary bring him a pillow. While he was up on the roof, he took a knife and cut the feather pillow, and then he shook it. The wind caught the feathers and scattered them everywhere. He said, “Ma’am, when you pick up all those feathers, then the damage with your tongue can be taken care of. Until you do that, I can forgive you all day long, but the damage will never go away.”
One lady was divorcing her husband and wanted full custody of the children. She instructed them to lie and say that their father had touched them in a wrong way. The father was in serious trouble with the law and was unable to see his children. After that happened, the lady was saved and baptized. She weeps every day because she committed such a vengeful act.
Notice the first phrase in this verse, “Plead my cause, O Lord.” You can be taken to a jury trial and be found guilty even though you are completely innocent. However, the most important thing to be worried about is whether God is pleased with you. Are you right with God? If you are right with God, it does not matter if you are accused falsely.
I have never seen such loose talk in my life as I have seen lately, especially due to the Internet and the anonymousness of such. By the way I believe that it is cowardess of the worst sort. So many people are hurt by false accusations. It is time for people to start being honest. Some children lie so much that they could fool a lie detector test. They lie at the drop of a hat and in some cases throw the hat for the opportunity.
How should you handle the situation when a false accusation has been made against you? You should think about making the following resolutions so you will know what to do if you are falsely accused.
Act. Do Not React.
Psalm 35:11 says, “False witnesses did rise up; they laid to my charge things that I knew not.” When you are falsely accused of something, you are in good company! Jesus, also, was falsely accused. Even though He is the Son of God, they still found him guilty.
Verse 12 tells us, “They rewarded me evil for good to the spoiling of my soul.” Why was David falsely accused? He was trying to do right, yet they returned evil for good. Why? They wanted his soul. They wanted his spirit. Hateful people want your soul and spirit, too. If you are not careful, you will become as bitter as your accusers are. Learn to "Act. Do not react."
Verses 13 and 14 continue the saga. 13“But as for me, when they were sick, my clothing was sackcloth: I humbled my soul with fasting; and my prayer returned into mine own bosom. 14I behaved myself as though he had been my friend or brother: I bowed down heavily, as one that mourneth for his mother.” When David was falsely accused, he prayed. He considered his accuser as a brother. Instead of hitting him and cursing his accuser, David fell on his face and made sure his relationship with God was right. When lateral relationships are not right the first thing to do is check your vertical relationship with Christ for "...truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ." (I John 1:3) The lateral is merely a reflection of our vertical relationship.
When you are accused falsely, do not retaliate by accusing your accuser falsely. Never lie. God will not bless a liar. David said his accusers were sick. He was not sick, but he put on the clothing of sackcloth, the clothing that represented the hearts of his accusers. He wore it so he could identify with them because they were going to be judged by God. They were digging a pit they would fall into. His heart went out to them. He prayed for them and treated them as if they were his brothers. They had to face God for what they have done and said, not David.
Go to Church
Psalm 35:18 says, “I will give thanks in the great congregation: I will praise thee among much people.” When it was time for church, David went to church. Even though he had been falsely accused and was hurting he still went to church. He went to be with other people who wanted to do right, those who had been born again, washed in the blood of the Lamb.
It does not matter what problems you have in life; get out of bed, and go to church with the people of God. Listen to the preaching of the Word of God. Sing the songs of God. The 70 years we have here on earth are nothing compared to eternity with God. Do not worry as much about someone accusing you falsely as you worry about being right with God.
At Church, Give Thanks and Praise God
David said he would praise God and give Him thanks while he was at church. When you are falsely accused, you can sit and pout in a corner, or you can walk in with your head held high and say, “Bless God! I am a child of the King. Let "So-and-So" say what he wants to say. I refuse to drop my head. I belong to God Almighty, and I am going to continue to serve Him.”
Leave it up to God to Intervene
Psalms 35:19-21 pleads, 19“Let not them that are mine enemies wrongfully rejoice over me: neither let them wink with the eye that hate me without a cause. 20For they speak not peace: but they devise deceitful matters against them that are quiet in the land. 21Yea, they opened their mouth wide against me, and said, Aha, Aha, our eye hath seen it.”
David decided to let God take care of those who accused him falsely. We are a God-fearing people, and we believe in obeying the law. If you do not obey the law, you should be punished. However, when you are falsely accused, let God be the final Judge. You simply concern yourself with doing right. We want to scrap while God wants to salvage.
Cheer on Other People
Psalms 35:27 says, “Let them shout for joy, and be glad, that favour my righteous cause: yea, let them say continually, Let the Lord be magnified, which hath pleasure in the prosperity of his servant.” David cheered other people, and they cheered him. You should cheer the other members of the church. We have something to cheer about! We are saved forever because we have trusted Christ as Saviour!
Acts 16 tells us the story of Paul and Silas in jail for preaching the Gospel. Verse 25 says, “And at midnight Paul and Silas prayed, and sang praises unto God: and the prisoners heard them.” They rejoiced in jail. Suddenly, a great earthquake shook the foundations of the prison, and the doors were opened. The prisoners’ bands were loosened. God had seen the joy of His people, and He decided to deliver them.
Acts 16:27-30 tells us of their astonishing victory! 27“And the keeper of the prison awaking out of his sleep, and seeing the prison doors open, he drew out his sword, and would have killed himself, supposing that the prisoners had been fled. 28But Paul cried with a loud voice, saying, Do thyself no harm: for we are all here. 29Then he called for a light, and sprang in, and came trembling, and fell down before Paul and Silas. 30And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved?”
This question was only asked one time in the Bible. The answer was given in verse 31, “And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.” Some people want to depend on the Book of the Mormon. Others want to depend on their baptism. Only one person has the power to save you from going to Hell—Jesus Christ. If you have trusted Jesus to save your soul from Hell, it really does not matter who accuses you falsely. You are still on your way to Heaven.
Romans 2:1-3 cautions, 1“Therefore thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest does the same things. 2But we are sure that the judgment of God is according to truth against them which commit such things. 3And thinkest thou this, O man, that judgest them which do such things, and doest the same, that thou shalt escape the judgment of God?”
If you are being falsely accused, just remember, false accusers are usually guilty of the same sin they are accusing someone else of doing. If you falsely accused someone else, you are just telling everyone what is on your mind and what you have done. You know the motive behind a person’s actions because you know the motive behind your own actions.
If you are falsely accused, make sure you are saved. If you are saved, you have been saved from the worst punishment. Second, make sure you are right with God. Then act; do not react. Hold your head high because you are saved and on your way to Heaven. When you decide to "act" it will be spiritual, but when you automatically "react" it will 99% of the time be carnal. God is your final Judge, and He will always vindicate His children.
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